When it comes to dating and relationships, both sexes can be guilty of some pretty basic mistakes. These can be massive turn-offs to the opposite sex, and – if made persistently – can result in the offender being somewhat love-challenged. So, what are these mistakes? In an earlier post, we mentioned some typical male behaviours which usually fail to impress women, so – here – we thought we’d reverse the emphasis and list a few of the crasser errors made by women. The following are eight things named by men, in a recent survey, as the most irritating female traits.
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It wasn’t all that long ago – just a century or so – that respectable single women wouldn’t be seen in the company of a gentleman friend without a chaperone. It was a social attitude to sex that persisted well in to the 20th Century – in fact, it wasn’t until the mid or late 1960s that the ‘sexual revolution’ challenged traditional codes of behaviour and changed things radically, and for good. As a measure of just how much attitudes have changed, consider the results of a recent survey by the website AdultDateMaker, which polled 20,000 female users on their feelings about First Date Sex – the results showed that 34% would wait less than one date (or six hours) before having sex with someone they’d just met. How indicative is this of reality? Here, we show the results of some other similar surveys.
If you’ve gone to the trouble of joining a website like for2 and carefully crafting your profile, there’s no point in then sitting there, thumbs twiddling, waiting for offers to come flooding in. You should be proactive. Contact people. Decide who tickles your virtual fancy, put fingers to keyboard, and send them a message. This, of course, raises the question of what you should say. Some people are a natural at this, and others find it a bit more difficult. Some, quite frankly, make a total mess of it. So, for those of you who are in the latter two groups, here are a few reminders of essential dos and don’ts when emailing your chosen dates. We’ve touched on the subject before, but it’s worth a refresher course.
With the possible exception of Jack Dee, everyone wants to be happier. The question is, how? If you browse the Internet, it will take you about 10 seconds to learn that there’s no shortage of advice, some of it even quite sensible. The thing is, though, that most of it seems to be more inspirational and uplifting rather than practical, stuff like ‘smile more’, ‘be yourself, or ‘get a cat’. What would, for many, be more helpful is advice that is more rooted in scientific fact than unsupported assertion. Here, we look at one piece of advice that meets that condition – a suggestion that has the muscle of scientific research firmly behind it.
To most of us, perhaps, online dating is just a bit of fun: nothing more than a 21st-century way of meeting people. To some researchers, though it’s much more – in fact, one theory that’s recently emerged is that Internet dating might erode long-standing norms which are sometimes thought to be the bedrock of social stability. That’s because, according to the theory, online dating may be changing the tendency of people to mate with people like themselves. The result could be shorter marriages.
Homophily. Not a word that’s familiar to everyone, perhaps, but it’s well-known to sociologists. It means ‘love of the same’, a behavioural trait that’s frequently observed in all countries and racial groups, as well as other subgroups of society. It’s even found – so recent research has shown – among online daters. Of course, this is hardly a surprise when it comes to sex and gender – many gay people routinely use dating sites to find a partner. What the researchers didn’t expect to find, though, was a very high rate of same-ethnicity dating.
Do online daters have a propensity to lie? The answer to that, some might think, is best phrased in terms of another question: is the Pope Catholic? Yes, of course online daters lie! Perhaps a more germane question is: do they lie more than anyone else? If so, how much more? And, critically, is there a way of telling (before you meet them) who’s lying and who isn’t? A new study, by researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison has the answers.
Where can you find the “friskiest” women? In the town or in the country? Sounds like a tough question to answer, but – thanks to a recent study – we now know what that answer is. And (wait for it!) it’s the country. Research has revealed that rural women were the most frisky, and West Country lasses the most passionate in the UK. The website which carried out the study claimed that the difference in outlook was likely to be due to the combination of fresh air, fantastic food and stunning scenery.
Dating when you’re an adult is different than it was when you were young. The ‘rules’ are constantly changing, and people have more baggage as they move along in life. So, if you are newly single, or haven’t dated in a while, and you’re nervous about getting out there again, here’s a few tips that may help. They aren’t rocket science: in fact they’re all pretty obvious. But it’s worth reminding yourself of time to time – they might save you from kissing too many frogs before you find your prince or princess.
Does it matter what colour you wear on your online dating profile? After all, we’ve known for some time that men perceive women who wear red as more attractive. In fact, there are several studies which show that men find women more appealing when they’re clad in crimson. But could sporting scarlet – the colour of passion – in an online dating profile photo increase a woman’s chances of being contacted? A new piece of research has given us the answer.