When it comes to dating and relationships, both sexes can be guilty of some pretty basic mistakes. These can be massive turn-offs to the opposite sex, and – if made persistently – can result in the offender being somewhat love-challenged. So, what are these mistakes? In an earlier post, we mentioned some typical male behaviours which usually fail to impress women, so – here – we thought we’d reverse the emphasis and list a few of the crasser errors made by women. The following are eight things named by men, in a recent survey, as the most irritating female traits.
A new large-scale survey, conducted by American researchers, has revealed some interesting new statistics about our behaviour in relationships. The results of the online survey, which polled almost 100,000 people from around the world, were published a month or so back in a new book called The Normal Bar – a title which reflects the survey’s attempt to define ‘normal’ when it comes to sex, love and romance in society today. Among the survey’s findings was that maintaining a mood of romance is important for a successful long-term relationship.
A recent survey by adult learning website Love to Learn has found that, as salaries and job status rise, the more likely men are to turn to their mothers for advice about life’s big decisions. In fact, the results of the survey showed that almost two out of three men who worked as chief executives, surgeons, senior civil servants and similar high-flying jobs described themselves as mummy’s boys. In contrast, only one in five in working-class professions, and two in five in semi-skilled or manual jobs admitted being tied to their mother’s apron strings.
In our last post, we published some ‘not-so-obvious’ results of recent research in the field of sex and relationships. The item prompted quite a few emails to us from members who knew of other, equally ‘unobvious’, findings. As many of these were interesting and/or amusing, we thought that, rather than keep them to ourselves, we’d share them with you – so here are five of the more surprising items from the list of those we were sent.
There’s a lot of research on sex and relationships out there. And quite a bit of it tends to state the obvious. One study from last year, for example, concluded that unintended pregnancy has ‘adverse effects on a woman’s quality of life’. What, really? You don’t say. Another study found that (hold the Front Page!) men who used condoms tended to experience decreased sexual pleasure. But not all research reports such obvious findings. We recently came across a series of studies whose conclusions were anything but obvious. Here’s five of the more surprising of them.
It wasn’t all that long ago – just a century or so – that respectable single women wouldn’t be seen in the company of a gentleman friend without a chaperone. It was a social attitude to sex that persisted well in to the 20th Century – in fact, it wasn’t until the mid or late 1960s that the ‘sexual revolution’ challenged traditional codes of behaviour and changed things radically, and for good. As a measure of just how much attitudes have changed, consider the results of a recent survey by the website AdultDateMaker, which polled 20,000 female users on their feelings about First Date Sex – the results showed that 34% would wait less than one date (or six hours) before having sex with someone they’d just met. How indicative is this of reality? Here, we show the results of some other similar surveys.
If you’ve gone to the trouble of joining a website like for2 and carefully crafting your profile, there’s no point in then sitting there, thumbs twiddling, waiting for offers to come flooding in. You should be proactive. Contact people. Decide who tickles your virtual fancy, put fingers to keyboard, and send them a message. This, of course, raises the question of what you should say. Some people are a natural at this, and others find it a bit more difficult. Some, quite frankly, make a total mess of it. So, for those of you who are in the latter two groups, here are a few reminders of essential dos and don’ts when emailing your chosen dates. We’ve touched on the subject before, but it’s worth a refresher course.
Is living together before you get married a good or a bad idea? Most people think it’s a good idea – in fact, in a 2001 American survey, nearly 70% of twenty somethings believed that moving in together before marriage was a good way to avoid divorce, and other research has echoed these results. Now, though, this conclusion looks like it could be wrong. Several recent studies have shown that couples who live together before marriage are actually more rather than less likely to split up after marriage. So, what has changed?
If you’re a man, sex, it appears, is good for you. And if you’re thinking ‘Why don’t you tell us something new?’…well, we are telling you something new. Because, although sex has long been regarded as good for physical and mental health, there has been little scientific evidence to show the full benefits that it can have on major illnesses such as heart disease. Now, though, a recent study has shown that men who have sex at least twice a week can almost halve their risk of heart disease. The researchers did not examine whether women benefit too.
Well, now that Christmas is over with for another year (but for how long?), it’s the perfect time to reflect on the ritual of gift-giving. Do we go over the top and buy far too much? Has giving become an empty gesture, done just because it’s expected of us, rather than to express appreciation of someone? How good are we at buying gifts – do we buy appropriate and valued things? Well, the first two of these questions will remain unanswered here, but the third of them – how good are we at giving – has been addressed by a post-Christmas survey. The results aren’t especially surprising, but they’re worth summarising.